servodude wrote:While it's nice to see that the pantomime season has been extended this year
- it's this kind of humpty dumpty "oh no i didn't" performance that tends to disintegrate threads in to a graphorrheal morasse until someone comes along and locks it
If one finds a poster who they believe cannot admit when they were wrong - why continue to point it out to them? we can all see it!
- it's not nice to poke at someone like that for fun (they could have a problem, it's a symptom of a few things, and there are few barriers to using the intertubes - so be kind)
if it really irks you, one can block them, so you don't need to read the text you know they've written
- but the utility of that diminishes if every other poster continues to quote them and bang heads
- accept you can't get blood from a stone (easily anyway - you'd need to rig the stone someway or include fossils) and humpty dumpty will do what humpty does - but you can put that stone (and comic fat egg) somewhere you don't need to see them
Isn't it a more enjoyable use of our bandwidth to point out Sunak seems to be doing a tiny Tony Blair impersonation in posh loafers?
-sd
I enjoyed Googling some of those metaphors. I will admit to not remembering to use them in future posts as my ability to throw the English language around is extremely limited. At times it can be embarrassingly so. Although when I see it used so skilfully, I am well impressed.
I have many opinions. I don’t see any TLF boards that invite others to lambast each other’s opinions. Indeed the CAN board is and I quote “for polite debate and discussion”. On occasions I’ve opened up a thread to find a reply to something I’ve commented on or when I offered my opinion and it seems harsh. If someone wants to challenge my opinions I’d like to hope I am open to hearing what they have to say. And if someone offers up something constructive, I’d like to think I am able to reflect on that. But all too often replies are binary. They almost seem to want to draw me into an argument. There’s a huge difference between debate and argument. And no I’m not going to sit down and back that statement up.
Human beings are complex creatures. For the last two days I have felt particularly … well I’ve felt proper shyte. No reason, just having a couple of really bad days. [Sh]It happens. I’m not going to turn this post into a “pity me” drama neither. This goes to the root of what sd has [rightly so] raised. How can anyone know just how someone else is feeling at any moment in time. But if we were all a little kinder to each other, and I need to be first in that queue, then we can have some bloody great discussions. Instead these boards often end up taking a “point scoring” route, which does seem such a shame. We have some great minds behind our tags, and yes, I accept I should not be included in that statement.
If you find someone is disagreeing with you there are options available to you. Walk away from the “discussion”. Block the other poster. Accept that you both disagree on a subject and move onto to discussing something more constructive.
I completely support sd’s advice to be kind. Often, I find it impossible to “think about” someone else kindly if I feel they are attacking me. And, unfortunately for me, due to my condition and early life experiences I am extremely defensive. Today when I feel good I can control that and take my own medicine. Yesterday and Monday I would have found it virtually impossible. It’s as frustrating for me, as anyone else. I have to live with the burden and on some days it can be very hard to compensate.
We can never know how someone is feeling when we are having a discussion with them on a bulletin board. But we can set out to be polite and discuss instead of arguing. We can disagree too as long as it’s constructive and as “we” stare at each other across this divide we can respect our differences, not use them to score points.
If at any time I am not polite I’d prefer other posters to bring this to my attention [politely], please. A PM would probably be the best way. If my opinions aren’t something you want to hear I’d suggest you block my posts and leave it at that.
I see this little cyber place as a community. That’s my opinion and I completely understand others will not feel the same. Still we can all make each other’s day a little easier just being kind.
AiY(D)